Follow up: to love or not to love

After reading other people's feelings on love I realized that it is not a question of wether or not to love, but if you need to fall in love. What I mean by that is everyone has the opportunity to fall in love but not everbody needs it. There are plenty of people ou there that are not in love but still live life I the fullest and enjoy every second of it. This also supports my original statement that you shouldn't fall in love. If you are happy and contempt with your life then why would you want to risk your happiness on something that isn't garuntee'd to last?

Why you shouldnt fall in love

At some point in everyone’s life they most likely will fall in love with someone. However, is it a good idea? The “ups” to love are that you have someone who cares a lot about you which is just a generally nice feeling to have. Plus you have a best friend that will have your back in nearly any situation. And eventually the love may continue to grow to the point where you and your lover get married and have children and leave your legacy on the world. However the “downs” of love most definitely outweigh the “ups”. You should only fall in love if you know for a fact that the person you are falling for feels exactly the way that you feel about them, because if one of you cares any less about the other than the one that cares “too much” will get hurt. Because of this I find that falling in love is a particularly bad idea, especially for younger people. At a young age you have your entire life ahead of you and by falling in love you start to think about the future and envision yourself with the person you are in love with. But after setting these visual images in your head you get into a certain mindset that it might actually happen even though it may not. These false images only create more pain if the relationship doesn't last, often times a pain that takes a long time to go away. However if you and the person you are in love with are in your 20s-30s and have been together for a long time, you may be able to stay in love because you are more mature and have less stress than teenagers. Love causes people to be blind because they only see what they want to see and cannot always think straight about what is happening right in front of them. You may be in love with a person for months or even years and think that everything is going well when in reality the relationship is dying right in front of you. The reason this is dangerous is because it can happen at any given moment and the shock of it may be too much for some people to handle. Loving someone also causes stress and extreme pressure. By loving someone you worry about things that they do, the people they’re with, and all sorts of other things that could cause stress because if anything were to happen to them is would leave you devastated. The pressure that comes from love is that you always feel like you have to be your complete best to impress your partner because if you’re not than you may lose them. Love is a wonderful thing but it just isn’t for everyone. I personally believe that you should not fall in love with someone unless you are physically and mentally mature enough, and that the feeling of love is mutual between the couple so that way it will remain to last hopefully forever and nobody has to be hurt.