Follow up: to love or not to love

After reading other people's feelings on love I realized that it is not a question of wether or not to love, but if you need to fall in love. What I mean by that is everyone has the opportunity to fall in love but not everbody needs it. There are plenty of people ou there that are not in love but still live life I the fullest and enjoy every second of it. This also supports my original statement that you shouldn't fall in love. If you are happy and contempt with your life then why would you want to risk your happiness on something that isn't garuntee'd to last?

Why you shouldnt fall in love

At some point in everyone’s life they most likely will fall in love with someone. However, is it a good idea? The “ups” to love are that you have someone who cares a lot about you which is just a generally nice feeling to have. Plus you have a best friend that will have your back in nearly any situation. And eventually the love may continue to grow to the point where you and your lover get married and have children and leave your legacy on the world. However the “downs” of love most definitely outweigh the “ups”. You should only fall in love if you know for a fact that the person you are falling for feels exactly the way that you feel about them, because if one of you cares any less about the other than the one that cares “too much” will get hurt. Because of this I find that falling in love is a particularly bad idea, especially for younger people. At a young age you have your entire life ahead of you and by falling in love you start to think about the future and envision yourself with the person you are in love with. But after setting these visual images in your head you get into a certain mindset that it might actually happen even though it may not. These false images only create more pain if the relationship doesn't last, often times a pain that takes a long time to go away. However if you and the person you are in love with are in your 20s-30s and have been together for a long time, you may be able to stay in love because you are more mature and have less stress than teenagers. Love causes people to be blind because they only see what they want to see and cannot always think straight about what is happening right in front of them. You may be in love with a person for months or even years and think that everything is going well when in reality the relationship is dying right in front of you. The reason this is dangerous is because it can happen at any given moment and the shock of it may be too much for some people to handle. Loving someone also causes stress and extreme pressure. By loving someone you worry about things that they do, the people they’re with, and all sorts of other things that could cause stress because if anything were to happen to them is would leave you devastated. The pressure that comes from love is that you always feel like you have to be your complete best to impress your partner because if you’re not than you may lose them. Love is a wonderful thing but it just isn’t for everyone. I personally believe that you should not fall in love with someone unless you are physically and mentally mature enough, and that the feeling of love is mutual between the couple so that way it will remain to last hopefully forever and nobody has to be hurt.  

life without children

Life without children to me seems pointless. Who wouldn’t want to see a smaller version which is biologically half of them? Although there are several pros to not having children, I personally think that there are more cons. By having children you leave a mark on the world. You have someone who reflects your skills as a parent and by doing so can make you proud or extremely embarrassed. Every child has the potential to do something great like become the president or end world hunger, so why wouldn’t you want to contribute to the world knowing that your own blood could potentially do something great and be remembered for the rest of time? Children also bring joy in life. Their innocence and clumsiness provide nothing but laughter in those around them. There is just something about a baby’s laughter that brings joy into peoples faces. Having a child also has many down sides too. When children become teenagers they become rebellious and begin to test you as a parent and see how much they can get away with. They’ll go to parties, get in trouble, be wild and crazy, and just over all trouble towards their parents. If you don’t have children it also saves lots of money. You have to buy children clothes, food, a home, accessories, electronics, school books, and when they’re older you have to pay for cars, car insurance, college, which by the time they are out of college you will most likely be thousands of dollars in debt, to go along with the thousands you’ve spent throughout their life on all the other necessities. Children can also cause stress on their parents. Alone as babies they will cry, soil themselves, throw up, scream and yell, misbehave, and all sorts of other actions that most people will find obnoxious or annoying. And if you have more than one child they will fight nearly all the time. Most of the time not even for a good reason which can be extremely tiring to listen too as a parent. After a long days work parents do not want to come home to bickering children. They just want to relax and enjoy their time at home until they have to return to work, which can be difficult to do if there are fighting children. But overall it is better to have children. It is our job as humans to ensure that our race continues to go on for years and years to come far after we are all gone. They may involve lots of time, effort, money, and care, but it is most definitely worth knowing that you have given life to a new human who has the chance to do something great in their life, not to mention all the potential fun you can have with them. Children are our future and without them life to me just seems pointless. We need to do our jobs as humans and keep continuing to create life on planet earth.

Love

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Difficult conversation

On one sad, cloudy afternoon, Mrs. Livingston received a call saying that her father had passed on. She was of course very saddened, but was very worried about how she would approach telling her son  Jim Bob whom was very close with his grandfather.

(Door opens)

Jim Bob: Hi mom!

Mrs.Livingston: hello Jim Bob

Jim Bob: Have you heard from grandpa? I was supposed to go fishing with him this afternoon.

Mrs. Livingston: Well sweetheart I actually wanted to talk to you about that, I'm afraid grandpa can't go fishing.

Jim Bob: why not?!

Mrs. Livingston: Jim Bob, there's no easy way to put this but grandpa has passed on. But don't feel sad for him because he's in a better place.

Jim Bob: WHAT!? NOOOO

The two immediately start sobbing and holding each other, and the point of the dialogue is that no matter how difficult a conversation may be, it is always best to come straight out with the truth.

What adults can learn from kids

One of Adora Svitak's points in her video was that adults blame children for being irresponsible, however adults more times than children are the irresponsible ones. Take the topic of child abuse for example. A parents job is to love and take good care of their child however those who choose to abuse their children are acting irresponsibly and because of this the child may grow up to also be irresponsible. Adults are also highly hypocritical. For example, adults such as parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles ect, tell children not to smoke cigarettes. Yet THEY are the ones who smoke, even though they tell us not to. Adora also says that children are much smarter than they are given credit for, its just that sometimes adults expect too much out of children. If adults could learn to be better role models, then it will cause the future generations to also be good role models and better the world for years to come.